In ten years time I will be….

Today’s prompt for the Blogging Every Day In May challenge is this brain teaser – ‘In ten years time I will be…’

Great question. I haven’t got a clue, really!

I know there are people out there who have a life plan, some of which I’m sure are quite detailed, and some may be more of a general framework. These life plans could include career goals, family goals, travel, new skills, experiences and personal goals. They could be carefully saved as spreadsheets and reviewed quarterly, or stuck on the fridge and discussed at ‘family meetings’ (do people really have those?).

I know a couple who, when they were first dating, discovered that they both kept personal expenditure spreadsheets – seems that’s an aphrodisiac to some – and they’re now happily married with a bub. I’m sure they merged spreadsheets as well as life plans before they said ‘I do’!

As for me, I’m not much of a planner. I haven’t decided what I want for lunch – let alone dinner tonight, and it’s lunchtime already.

Having never been bitten hard by wanderlust or yearned for the top rung of a career ladder, I guess to some I’m a muddler, perhaps even a plodder. That’s fine with me.

I happily went off to secretarial college as a 15 1/2 year old, landed my first full time secretarial job at 16 1/2, and have over the last *cough* three decades worked as a receptionist/secretary/PA/administrator/office coordinator or whatever the trendy term of the time is here and there, enjoying different industries – law, commerce, not for profit, fashion and more. Like everyone (even those with a life plan) I’ve endured crap bosses, had a few great bosses, worked alongside lovely colleagues, not so lovely ones, and endured crowded (or cancelled) public transport and traffic jams. The stuff of dreams!

I decided I wanted to have the university experience, so quit my job (a great gig) at 30 and studied part time over about 5 years. Great experience. Still glad I did it. Didn’t finish the degree, that wasn’t the point. A life plan person might not like that much.

So when I think about where I might be 10 years from now, I don’t see a vision of anything much more than me, with a few more grey hairs. I’ll be in my mid-50s – gulp!

On a practical level, I hope to be working and enjoying it, and to be blogging or writing or creating in some form. I’d like to be able to live as I choose to (which I expect will mean being able to continue to live solo), to have read more books, to have shared and cooked more great meals, conquered pastry, and worked out the intricacies of photo storage on my laptop – though they may have gone the way of the dodo by then.

I reckon what my lack of planning boils down has something to do with the way I see myself in the world. I don’t have a checklist of places or titles or achievements in my head, things I must conquer or tick off, that are pushing me on to be better/faster/wealthier. If you have such a list, more power to you. I wish you well in your endeavours.

Perhaps I’ve put my energy into a different kind of growth or ‘life plan’. If I look back ten years, I’m certainly more in touch with what makes me tick, and with who I am, than I was at 36.

You may have read the post I wrote about LoveChild and my experience as an adoptee, which you can find here, and I think that’s part of my unwritten life plan – working out who I am and how I fit. When I was a church-going girl, there was a bible verse that always resonated with me, I won’t bother with referencing it – ‘Work out your salvation with fear and trembling’. The thing that appealed to me was that I saw the ‘working out’ part as an instruction, an ongoing process, something that gave me permission to question things, and to ponder things. I don’t think we know who we are, or what we’re here for, or could contribute or want to experience, as a default setting. I think we have to work it out. (I also think that it takes a pretty long time, which gives me hope for Miley Cyrus!)

If I had to write a life plan right now, it wouldn’t have many places or roles or things that require a ticket on it. It might look a bit like this:

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Writing this blog helps me understand the nature of my unwritten ‘life plan’ – at the core of my being, I long to know who I am, and to learn the gentle/strong art of loving and accepting myself, even celebrating myself. Perhaps, in a small (or big) way, as I become more and more that girl, I’ll give some encouragement and hope to others.

That would be my equivalent of a Nobel Prize.

I’m working on it.

 

Annette

 

 

 

 

 

17 thoughts on “In ten years time I will be….

  1. Annette, I love this post. In a world driven by goals and plans and achievements and outcomes, it is refreshing to find someone who is content just being who they are and continuing to discover who they are, without the need to tick off some mark on a plan checklist. Personally, I think we suffer from plan fatigue in our society. If we aren’t working towards something, it is perceived we aren’t achieving. What happened to valuing just be an all round contended nice person?
    Well done you, and long may your journey of self discovery continue 😉

    Love Sarah x

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  2. Like Sarah above … and like I said in our email communication … I really love that you’re walking your own path. And I also love that the path you’re walking is taking you towards celebrating yourself. A very worthy ‘goal’!!

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    • Thanks Kelly. I am such a fan of the people that blogging is bringing me in contact with. We can all learn from each other.
      Appreciate your encouragement and that your writing makes me think more about the path I’m choosing, and loving.

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    • It’s a crucial one Sam. I often wink at myself on the mirror, I compliment myself when I try, or succeed.
      I am my own cheer squad.
      Treat yourself like you are your own BFF.

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  3. Taking chances in life and being flexible is one of the best things that you can be, I think. The plans are great, but they are not always what ends up happening.

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  4. Great post Annette! Plans and goals are great to aspire to and try to follow but I find life gets in the way. You can’t control your environment or the people which surround you. I know my path has deviated so many times and it will again. There is nothing wrong with going with the flow. x

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  5. I’m definitely a ‘muddler’/’plodder’ too Annette, and feeling a little lost right now. Perhaps this is a definite trait of the creative individual? Thanks for sharing. We could start a new movement – plodders united?

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    • Rebecca, I reckon even the most focused people feel that way too at times. I’m a list maker, maybe that will help? Thanks for taking the time to comment.

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  6. I have ideas & dreams of what I would like to achieve & do in this world but no set plan on how to get there … I don’t think it’s as simple as having a checklist of steps to achieving these dreams (not for me anyway!)… & I sometimes think that a bit more drive might not go amiss but the fact is that I’m happy…. and I’m not good at planning! So as long as I’m slowly moving in a fulfilling direction then I’m just going to keep on dreaming & see where it takes me! x

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